when you assign negative connotations to a person who desires to hurt others, when you insult and ridicule them, you should know that you’re contributing either to the possibility that one day they might end up actually doing it, or to the reason they have done it in the past. there’s a reason they want to hurt others, and if all you’re thinking about is how selfish they are and how they should be punished, you’re leaving no room to figure out why they want to hurt others in the first place. and if the cause of their pernicious inclination is unknown, how do you expect the effects of it to go away?
by insulting or avenging a person for being hurtful, all you’re doing is dumping gasoline into the fire. but if you want to effectively extinguish the fire, you have to attack the base; not with more fire, but with its opposite. and what is the opposite of evil? you might think that being nice to someone who enjoys hurting others is a bit counterproductive, but i just want to remind you of the likelihood that their hurtful desires are caused by others hurting them first. i mean, think about it; how many murderers have you heard of that were surrounded by gentle and compassionate people growing up? with a few exceptions, those who grow up to be wicked have themselves been victims of other peoples’ wickedness.
the most productive way to treat evil is not with more evil, but with compassion and understanding, with courtesy and positivity, with caring and a genuine desire to help those who cause pain as a result of being in pain themselves. and until we acknowledge this, the presence of evil in this world will continue to plague us all, whether directly or otherwise.
piano song i made with a picture i made
most people consciously understand that it’s wrong to condemn a person based on traits they were born with and that they have no control over. the color of their skin, sexual preference, gender, etc. but it’s usually superficial traits that people think of when determining the validity of their condemnation of a person. no one thinks it’s wrong to condemn someone for the personality they were born with. why is that?
you might think a wealthy philanthropist is a better person than say, a homeless drug addict. but by what criteria are you making that judgement? that wealthy philanthropist is just the spoiled kid who got everything handed to him at birth; but instead of being born into money, he was born into the right genes. he may have shed sweat and tears to get into the position he’s in, but he never shed the personality he was born with. it was his choice to work hard, but it wasn’t his choice to WANT to work hard. that’s just who he is. the homeless chap could have easily worked just as hard, but it just so happens that he wasn’t born with that type of personality.
so what makes someone better than someone else? if you can’t answer that question without taking into consideration their race or gender, then by default you can’t consider their personality either. you can’t determine the worth of a person by something that they have no control over. and if people are just manifestations of their personality unfolding and adapting over time through subconscious and uncontrollable experience and observation, then you can’t determine a persons worth by their actions either; because actions are nothing more than the result of thoughts, and thoughts are born out of personality. in other words, actions are merely the personality interacting with the world. so why is it that people think it’s wrong to condemn a person for their skin color, but not for their personality (actions)?
do they believe that one can change their personality? i think most people believe by now that a person cannot change their sexual orientation. but what they fail to understand is WHY sexual orientation can’t be changed. it’s because it’s a part of your personality, your identity. you can’t change what your favorite color is, or who you find attractive, or how good or bad you are at math, or how easily you can understand quantum mechanics, or anything else about your personality. and if you CAN change any of those things, you can’t control how quick or easy the changing process will be. if you were born a slow learner and want to be awesome at math, it may take a few days, weeks, years, decades, even centuries to achieve your goal (and if it takes centuries, sucks for you cuz you won’t even live that long).
do they believe that one should hide their true identity from the world if it consists of traits that harm others? because if that’s the case, you might as well tell every person in existence that they’re not allowed to be themselves, because doing so would result in SOMEONE getting hurt, even if it’s just for a second. no matter what you do, there will always be someone out there who disagrees with you and wants to change you. so where do you draw the line between a personality trait that’s detrimental enough to keep hidden from the world and one that’s a bit of a nuisance but tolerable nonetheless?
also, you have to remember that you can’t hide your personality from the world if it’s not in your personality to do so. if, when determining what your next action will be, you place more value on your own desires than on that of others, then you’re going to do whatever you want, regardless of what other people want. it may be selfish, but we call selfishness a personality trait for a reason. it’s something that can’t be changed or hidden, unless of course the desire for acceptance or admiration outweighs the desire to satisfy one’s own needs at the cost of others. but then that begs the question, is it selfish to make another person happy, even if your only reason for doing so is for your own benefit?
gandhi may have been a better person than hitler… or he may have just been luckier. if gandhi was born in the exact same situation as hitler, he too would have become a mass murderer. he would have been born with the exact same brain, which responds in the exact same way to the exact same stimuli, which would have inevitably led to the exact same mass murders of the exact same people. so the next time you think that a person is better than someone else, remind yourself that they may actually just be luckier.